The C♂rset Blog

A cis-, married guy

I like corseting - generally I would like to wear one a lot more. These are my various thoughts about navigating corsetry and trying not to make other people uncomfortable, including my own wife.

I also have a birth defect - pectus excavatum. During this corseting journey, I found that a standard underbust corset marketed for men, felt like it was pushing things into my chest cavity, in a way that made me panic and pause corseting for extended periods of time. I’ve never done anything to repair my sternum, but I also don’t want to make it worse. I switched to a waspie-style underbust corset, which doesn’t press on my ribs or sternum, and have much better comfort. Because of this, what I’m doing now may be better described as “waist training,” since I’m trying to avoid my ribs altogether. I haven’t tried any of the multitude of spandex or latex “waist trainers,” because so far having experienced the steel boning of a corset, that feels like an essential component of getting wrapped up in what I’m doing.

My wife doesn’t approve of my corseting, so we’re in a place where we just don’t talk about it. I make a point of not wearing it when she’s home so that we can do simple married things like hug without bringing it back to her attention. Getting a customized corset seems a logical next step from where I’m at, but I refer you back to Wife.

I’m not looking to create an hourglass figure; I don’t really have the feminine body curves to make that work even if I was. What I used for the first year was a “modern” curve. The waspie started curving my waist so that I have dimples under my ribs, but I discovered a lot of new yummy foods during the Covid lockdown, and have struggled with losing all the weight I gained in 2020-2022.

Now, if you continue, you’ll see the chaotic struggle through my diary, which I first write on paper, then transcribe here in batches.

I provide measurements for how tightly I wear a corset on any particular day. The measurements are taken from the waist tape area of the corset, after I tie it. In the journey, I switch corsets, and taped space doesn’t necessarily match the design of another corset. Someday, maybe I’ll find a way to make useful metrics out of the measurements for each.

I do know how to assemble proper English, but as I’m writing in a diary, some of the formalities drop so that I can more easily let the thoughts flow.